Effective Communication for Lasting Relationships
Practical skills for couples using the Gottman Method. Learn to listen, speak, and connect—turn conflict into understanding and strengthen your bond.
Welcome and Introduction
Working Through the Lessons
The Four Horsemen of Relationship Apocalypse
Video: The Four Horsemen
Criticism
Defensiveness
Contempt
Stonewalling
Handout: The Four Horsemen
Dr. John Gottman on Making Repairs
What is a Repair?
Laying the Groundwork
A Quick Guide to Making Repairs
What is the Repair Checklist?
Repair Checklist
Negative Sentiment Override
Sharing Fondness and Appreciation
Video: Sharing Fondness and Appreciation
Worksheets to Get You Going
How to Use the Good Qualities Worksheet
Good Qualities Worksheet
How to Use the 7 Weeks Worksheet
7 Weeks of Fondness and Admiration
Introducing Timeouts
Video: Understanding Timeouts
Timeouts: The Rules
Dr. Julie Gottman on Healthy Communication
What are I-Statements?
Video: Using I-statements
About the Boston University Handout
Boston University Handout
About Soft Startups
Soft Startups Handout